It was October 1, 2012 and at 9:00 at night and I got the call…
My mother had just passed away after a 2 year battle from uterine cancer.
My broken heart felt like it just shattered from 2 pieces into a million.
Is there anything more heart breaking then losing someone you love?
I would be hard pressed to try and think of anything else. Suffering from a broken heart can take a toll on us physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
It may feel like there’s a weight on our chest that never seems to lift, we may notice breathing difficulties, or neck and shoulder tension that never seems to go away.
In the weeks and months that passed I noticed all of them.
So, how did I work to heal my broken heart? In this post, I’ll share with you a few tools I used as well as a few that I wished I had at that time.
Understanding broken heart syndrome
I didn’t know it at that time, but I believe I was suffering from broken heart syndrome.
Yes, having a broken heart actually has a scientific name. It’s called “stress induced cardio-myopathy”.
I got sick often because my immune system was weak which caused inflammation in my body and a weakening of my defenses against illness and infection.
The grief, depression, and feeling completely alone added to the hurt as well.
To better understand this here’s an excerpt from John Hopkins Heart and Vascular Institute:
A condition in which intense emotional or physical stress can cause rapid and severe heart muscle weakness (cardiomyopathy).
This condition can occur following a variety of emotional stressors such as grief (e.g., death of a loved one), fear, extreme anger, and surprise.
It can also occur following numerous physical stressors to the body such as stroke, seizure, difficulty breathing (such as a flare of asthma or emphysema), or significant bleeding.
Using the tools to heal a broken heart
So, how did I get through all of this?
To be honest, it was not easy and it did take time.
Below I’ll share a few tools that I personally used (and now do professionally) as well as some that I wish I had at the time:
I gave myself acupressure – I love acupressure. It’s the application of finger pressure to specific points on the body to help it heal physically and emotionally. One of my favorite books is called Acupressure for Emotional Healing by Michael Reed Gach, PhD. I’ve also had an article published in Bella Spark magazine about acupressure called Emotions Spinning Out of Control? Acupressure can help.
I received Biodynamic Craniosacral Therapy – BCST as it’s also known is a gentle type of bodywork that helps to calm an agitated nervous system. Just being seen for who I was at the moment without judgement, being able to be held in a loving and safe space, and knowing underneath my broken heart that I was really okay – helped me to get through this difficult time in my life.
I wish I had my Heart Wall released – When we go through difficult times, we can “trap” emotions in our body and they can build around our heart forming a “Heart Wall”.
This was certainly my case. My heart was heavy, broken, and very emotionally damaged.
Releasing the “Heart Wall” through a few Emotion Code sessions can help you to feel less burdened as you let go of your emotional baggage. It can also help you to connect with others again, give and receive love – and all of this will help you greatly to heal your broken heart.
What can you do right now?
Part of the reason why I learned the Emotion Code was to help people gently and quickly start to heal their hearts after a loss of a loved one, break up, divorce or other challenging situation.
Releasing your Heart Wall can have vast improvements not only in the specific issue that you’re dealing with, but also in other areas of your life. You will be able to shine the light of your heart into the world once again and when that occurs…wonderful things can happen.
Here are what some of my clients’ have experienced so far.
If you’re ready and this work resonates with you, you can schedule your “Heart Wall Release” sessions here. All sessions are done over the phone so you can be in the comfort of your own home.
So, what do you think?
I would love to read your comments below. Do you agree or disagree? What have you found helpful for helping to heal your broken heart?